Sex & Relationships

Must A Woman Make The First Move? I Say YES!

Must A Woman Make The First Move? I Say YES!

Posted on 19 Jan 2013 at 1:21pm

I am a woman like you and if I have overcome my fears when it comes to going for the man I want, I surely know you can too. This is something that affects us all as women and as such, we have to tackle it together by sharing our experiences and ideas.

There are over million reasons why you think a woman should never make the first move. Commonly among these reasons is the notion that, the man will think you are cheap or will think that is all you do all the time.

This reason was never the reason why I never approached men until the day I made that bold step. My major fear was not about what the man will think but my own EGO. What if he says he is not interested?  I wouldn’t die but my ego would take forever to heal.

This traditional notion of women waiting for men to make the first move has deprived many of us from having our Romeos and what we really want. Many of us waited for a call that never came through and I know some of you reading this are still waiting for him to make the first move.

If you are waiting on him to make the first move, count yourself lucky that you are reading this at this time. You have to change things around and go for that man that you think about each night.

Making the first move is not about jumping on him to kiss him or proudly walking to him to say ‘I Love You’. It is about letting him know what you think of him, your intentions about him or about the two of you, your wish that the two of you should upgrade your friendship or become friends…

I want you to know via this post today that, it is perfectly right, acceptable and human for you as a woman to make the move and draw the man into your net.  This is 21st century for Christ sake, what men can do, we can do it better!

Why would you have to wait for him to get naughty with the text messages before you join in? Why are you waiting for him to take you to the cinema? What about you suggest a cinema together? (more…)

Sex & Relationship: Forget The Outdated Relationship Advice

Sex & Relationship: Forget The Outdated Relationship Advice

Posted on 29 Sep 2012 at 1:37pm

Forget Grandma’s wisdom – the modern dating scene has evolved and some of the most classic Dating Advice is now obsolete. Check out below what Match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor has for you to bring you to up to speed Wait 3 days to call

In the olden days, boy met girl, boy got girl’s phone number, boy waited three days to ring girl, boy looked mysterious and exotic. But those days have gone. In modern times when all of us carry around smart phones that can call, text, email, social-network, and IM, let alone challenge anyone to a game of online Scrabble at any time, waiting three days to get in touch just makes boy look like he ran out of call credit or like he’s trying too hard to be “cool”.

Really, just get in touch the next day. Within 24 hours. If you don’t want to look like you’re trying too hard then don’t try too hard – just pick up the phone and say something simple like, “I really enjoyed meeting you and I’d love to go out sometime soon. Fancy it?” Don’t agonise over being funny or clever – the more run-of-the-mill you are in early communications, the more confident and experienced you’ll seem, because it’ll look like you ask people out all the time. And that, believe it or not, is sexy.  (more…)

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Sex & Relationships: Why don’t you get back together?

Sex & Relationships: Why don’t you get back together?

Posted on 16 Jun 2012 at 8:52am

When a friend’s just been dumped, a kind, sensitive word can be just the tonic for helping mend the pain of a broken heart. But if you say the wrong thing you’ll be in danger of having your head bitten off. Here’s our handy list of what not to say…

1. I’m devastated! It’s not just your friend who won’t be seeing his or her ex any more – you will probably lose touch with them, too, and this can be a bit disappointing. But anything you’re feeling is nothing compared to the loss that your friend is dealing with. Plus the last thing they’ll want is to feel guilty for letting everyone else down, or to think their mates are more concerned about their own social lives than his or her feelings, so put selfish thoughts aside. 2. You were such a great couple to hang out with Maybe they were fantastically fun as a pair and you might think you’re helping by telling your friend this but, at this precise moment, you’re really not. Break-ups can be a real confidence knock, especially if the relationship’s lasted a while – your friend might be worrying how they’ll re-adjust to being alone. Comments like this run the risk of implying your friend isn’t going to be as fun, or popular, now they don’t have their ‘other half’. Focus on building up their self-esteem, reminding them they’re great and that you love them. 3. I never liked him anyway You might think this will make your friend feel better but, even if you didn’t like their partner, remember that the end of a relationship is always a grieving process – and your friend will need time to come to terms with it. Also, bring this up for the first time now and you’ll need to prepare for a possible awkward conversation – your pal might wonder why you didn’t share your concerns sooner. Plus, there’s always that chance they’ll end up back together and you’ll have some serious back-tracking to do. 4. Let’s go out on the pull! You can secretly look forward to a night on the town together, but your pal may need a bit of time and space before launching back onto the dating scene. Besides, there’s truth to the old cliché that you need to be happy on your own before you can be happy with someone else. Lend a shoulder to cry on and let your mate deal with the break-up before suggesting they seek a new flame. They’ll probably bring up the idea themselves when they’re ready. (more…)

 Sex & Relationships: 5 Easy Ways to sustain and make your relationship stronger

Sex & Relationships: 5 Easy Ways to sustain and make your relationship stronger

Posted on 03 Jun 2012 at 7:48am

Make your relationship better by addressing old issues

Fights, jealousy and previous misdemeanours upset our little bubble of romance and can make relationships a tricky minefield. If you find yourself constantly arguing over the same issues, or blowing up in anger over the smallest of triggers, it may be because you and your partner have not addressed some old issues. Next time this happens, try to stay calm and work out why you have reacted in this way.

If you recognise that you are angry about something that has happened in the past it is time to be brave and sit down with your partner to discuss it. Try not to accuse them. Instead talk through the problem, being as clear as possible about the way you feel. Try to look them in the eyes, as this helps build trust and intimacy. Once you’ve talked through your feelings attempt to work out a solution together. Although it may take a long time to heal this unresolved issue, if you feel you cannot forgive the person, it may be time to walk away. These issues will only continue to repeat themselves.

Make your relationship better by taking time out

Between going to work, keeping fit and doing chores, it can be difficult to find the time to spend some decent time with your partner. In the UK alone, a typical childless couple only spends an average of two and a half hours a day with their partner, and of that time nearly an entire hour is spent watching TV. If that sounds familiar it’s time to make some changes. Firstly, have a TV ban and take your partner on some dates. If you’re struggling for ideas, pretend that you are going on your first few dates. Where would you take a guy or girl to impress them; a romantic hillside spot for a picnic or a trendy bar to see a new band? Choose locations that allow you both to talk to one another and ideally that are new to you both. Sharing new experiences will help reinvigorate your love life and will bring you both closer together. Remember, these dates are all about fun, so enjoy it. (more…)
Sex & Relationships: Should Office Romance Be Encouraged?

Sex & Relationships: Should Office Romance Be Encouraged?

Posted on 31 May 2012 at 11:46am

Young professionals often spend more time at the office than at home. As a result, there are a lot of single men and women who don’t have the time to meet new people. Naturally, they seek their potential partners within their surrounding environment-in the office.

Single people feel that work is a natural place to meet new people. After all, you spend at least 40 hours a week there, with individuals of similar backgrounds and interests. Relationships with co-workers can be especially tempting because hard work doesn’t leave much time for socializing.

Always remember; while inter-office dating is not necessarily illegal, many companies have policies against it. The tricky part regarding such policies is what defines dating.

Most companies encourage friendships, so where’s the line between friendship and dating? If you start dating someone in the office, who can you tell? Should you try to keep it a secret? What if someone finds out? Would it have been better if you had been honest with your co-workers from the get-go?

These are the questions that will be lingering in your mind. There are many issues both positive and negative to consider before engaging in office romances. One of the positive aspects is time efficiency, since you no longer need to search for a significant other in the evening. Why look around for potential dates when you have an office full of beautiful women?  You save both time and money. (more…)

Sex & Relationships: Why Your Relationships Fails & Remedies

Sex & Relationships: Why Your Relationships Fails & Remedies

Posted on 21 May 2012 at 10:13am

I believe no one goes into a relationship with the intention of it ending up sour; if we know relationships are liable to break we wont indulge ourselves in them.

People have different choices and preferences when it comes to giving someone an opportunity to be a part of their life. Breakups are normally the last thing on the minds of lovers but it’s still inevitable due to some reasons (some listed below).

Jealousy

It is ironic that we can easily become jealous of our closest friends. Jealousy often occurs when there is a feeling of separation and competition. We need to learn to be happy at the success of others; it only when we can feel a sense of oneness with others achievements that jealousy will remain far away.

Also, we need to trust our partners -  a suspicious mind is very poisonous. It is better to be trusting rather always suspecting infidelity or disloyalty.

Others will be rightly discomforted if we mistrust them. If our partner lets us down, it is not our fault. But, if we suspect, because of our own insecurity, we are bound to create serious problems in our own relationships.

Attachment

There is a big difference between real love and emotional attachment. When we have emotional attachment to someone, we need their attention and presence. When we have excessive attachment to others, we can easily become jealous and demanding.

Often attachment occurs out of a sense of insecurity; if this is the case we need to develop self belief and inner confidence, we can’t just rely on other people to provide that. Strong relationships need a certain detachment; we need to be able to accept others for what they are, rather than expecting them to give us all their attention.

Domination

Even the closest relationships need to value the individual freedom of others. Problems will inevitably occur when we seek to dominate others. Often this takes the form of expectation. We want our son to become a certain person; we want our wife to live in a certain way. (more…)

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Sex & Relationship: Ten Ways To Get His Attention If He Doesn't Even Notice You

Sex & Relationship: Ten Ways To Get His Attention If He Doesn’t Even Notice You

Posted on 13 May 2012 at 11:40am

Sometimes it takes more than a hot body and new outfit to get a man to notice you. If he’s none the wiser to your affections, try one of these head-turning techniques.

1. Dream team If he’s a sports fan a bit of research into his favourite team will not go unnoticed. The next time he watches them play, keep an eye out for reports and news stories about the game. That way, you’ll not only have conversation starters when you meet up, but he’ll begin to think you’re the perfect match too. 2. Tough love Show you care by encouraging the object of your affections to do what’s good for him. By serving as his conscience you will demonstrate you have his interests at heart. So, make sure he phones his mum when he said he would, keep him supplied with fruit and vegetables and badger him to apply for that promotion. Get this right and he’ll realise how much you’re worth.

3. Opposites attract It’s a myth that men want someone to share their views. In fact the opposite is often true. Suitors with the cheek to contradict them are much more likely to pique their interest. So, find out what his opinions are and brush up on the counter-arguments. Start a debate and sparks will fly!

4. Hands on approach There’s nothing like a bit of physical intimacy to make a man think thoughts of amore. So – with this in mind – take some evening classes in massage techniques. Then when he comes back from five-a-side with a limp, offer to lay on your healing hands. It’s only because you’re an expert, of course!  (more…)

Sex & Love: How To Dress For A First Date – Women

Sex & Love: How To Dress For A First Date – Women

Posted on 13 May 2012 at 7:33am

The way you dress for a first date says a lot about who you are and provides some important visual clues to your partner. When it comes to a first date you may not really want to divulge the closet hippy or femme fatale lurking within. Don’t wear clothes that are very revealing or expose too much of your body.

If you do wear a skirt it should reach your knees at least and tops or shirts should never reveal a bra-line or too much cleavage. (Leave that for when you get to know each other a little better).

How you choose to dress should show your date you respect him enough to make a good impression. It can also make you feel a lot more confident and relaxed on your first day or night out with the object of your affection.

The outfit, shoes and accessories you choose to wear should be chosen with care and attention to detail and should indicate that you have made a special effort for your date. Don’t overdress in an effort to make an impression. A little black number isn’t famous for its over-the-top detail after all (more…)

Sex & Relationship: Never use your tears as a weapon

Sex & Relationship: Never use your tears as a weapon

Posted on 13 Apr 2012 at 1:48pm

The best ways to diffuse an argument A good row can bring up festering issues and really help to clear the air, but go about it the wrong way and you could end up starting World War Three. Kate Taylor, relationship expert at match.com, gives her advice on the best way to deal with an argument… Don’t bring up past squabbles  A current disagreement might have pertinent relevance to a vintage row from 2007, but don’t expect thanks for bringing that up. Instead of helping, it will just make your partner feel as if nothing ever truly gets resolved – and they’ll give up trying to fix this one too. Don’t use tears as a weapon Crying out of upset or frustration is understandable, but using tears as a manipulation tool is unforgivable – and likely to be unsuccessful. Research shows that men are actually turned off by seeing women cry, meaning he’s likely to be left unmoved. Talk about your feelings Men use logic in arguments. You can’t fight logic. Instead, explain how you feel about the topic in hand. His urge to make you happy (and his pride when he does) should help him come your way. Book in a time to row Don’t expect a good outcome if you interrupt your man to tell him all the ways he’s wrong/not up to scratch/driving you mad. Instead, open the conversation with: “I need to talk to you about something important – is now a good time?” This respect will make him less likely to become defensive and more likely to be accommodating. Vote with your feet If your other half has let you down badly, get away for a while. Even if it’s just for two hours round at a friend’s house. It will give him space to process, and your absence is a far more powerful signal of your anger than a string of furious words.

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Sex & Relationship: Female habits that drive men crazy

Sex & Relationship: Female habits that drive men crazy

Posted on 23 Mar 2012 at 7:05pm

Being comfortable with your other half is wonderful, however, you might have unconsciously picked up some habits along the way that turn him off. Here are the top 10 traits we think you should steer clear of.

10: Over-analysing everything Let’s face it, men really aren’t that complicated. So if a guy says, ‘I’m a bit busy right now. Can I ring you later?’ chances are, work’s really quite hectic. One kiss in his texts instead of the usual two doesn’t mean he’s gone off you, and a surprise cup of tea doesn’t mean he’s feeling guilty. So give men the benefit of the doubt, take things at face value and you’ll save yourself a heap of stress. 9: Wearing too much make-up We’re all for making an effort, but caking on too much slap risks bringing out your inner drag queen rather than your secret sex kitten. False eyelashes, fake tan and hair extensions all have their place, but a girl can look fab without resorting to these tricks. Far much better to enhance your natural beauty instead of hiding it, and remind him how gorgeous you really are.

8: Shop till YOU drop If a man is lucky enough to share his life with a girl, chances are he has to share it with a massive shoe collection as well. Dragging him around the sales for hours, splurging obscene amounts of cash and then taking up valuable storage space with your spoils can drive him up the wall. While retail therapy can soothe many a crisis, perhaps leave your partner at home next time!

7: Taking forever to get ready Even if the end result is a vision of beauty, it takes a very forgiving man to shrug off a three-hour wait. Men understand women want to look their best, but are perfect nails and expertly smoothed dresses really necessary for a visit to your local curry house? Being ready quickly will show how laid back you are, and give you both more time to have fun. (more…)



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