Must A Woman Make The First Move? I Say YES!11 Comments

By Amazing Grace
Posted on 19 Jan 2013 at 1:21pm

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I am a woman like you and if I have overcome my fears when it comes to going for the man I want, I surely know you can too. This is something that affects us all as women and as such, we have to tackle it together by sharing our experiences and ideas.

There are over million reasons why you think a woman should never make the first move. Commonly among these reasons is the notion that, the man will think you are cheap or will think that is all you do all the time.

This reason was never the reason why I never approached men until the day I made that bold step. My major fear was not about what the man will think but my own EGO. What if he says he is not interested?  I wouldn’t die but my ego would take forever to heal.

This traditional notion of women waiting for men to make the first move has deprived many of us from having our Romeos and what we really want. Many of us waited for a call that never came through and I know some of you reading this are still waiting for him to make the first move.

If you are waiting on him to make the first move, count yourself lucky that you are reading this at this time. You have to change things around and go for that man that you think about each night.

Making the first move is not about jumping on him to kiss him or proudly walking to him to say ‘I Love You’. It is about letting him know what you think of him, your intentions about him or about the two of you, your wish that the two of you should upgrade your friendship or become friends…

I want you to know via this post today that, it is perfectly right, acceptable and human for you as a woman to make the move and draw the man into your net.  This is 21st century for Christ sake, what men can do, we can do it better!

Why would you have to wait for him to get naughty with the text messages before you join in? Why are you waiting for him to take you to the cinema? What about you suggest a cinema together?

I am going to write another article on how to make the first move but let me quickly chip in this.  To ask him out on a cinema date, just tell him days ahead that you will be going to see a movie with your girlfriend and then few days to the date, tell him your girlfriend pulled out as a result of family emergency.  But you really want to go and see the movie so what about him coming with you? And quickly add that, it is your treat…

This works and to be frank, I have pulled it out so many times. To tell you the truth, mostly I get a dinner before or after the cinema and the fun part of it is that, they never accept it to be my treat, so they end up paying…

Men love confident women and making the first move brilliantly is a sign of confidence, it shows you know what you want and will do what it REASONALY takes to get it.

Have you ever made the first move before? Did it work out? How did you pull it out? How do you feel about making the first move?  I would love to hear from you and I know your comment will help the other sisters reading this too!

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  • Jessica

    Thanks for the article. It came at the right time because I am hanging in there with this guy that I so like but he is not making any move. I think I will now start dropping hints for him to know how much I want HIM lol

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  • em

    Oooh yes i have made the first movie before, i sent the text & it all started from there, he asked me out & ooh my i said yes, because i already loved him. but hey he doesn’t know that i liked him before. & now we about getting married, gosh we love each other so much…i will tell him after the wedding that i loved him before he ask me out lol..:)

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    em Reply:

    moved*

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    Lovie Reply:

    Really? You are even about to marry him? I guess this works then so I will need to start doing it too LOL

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    em Reply:

    lol yes we are getting married..It was my first time trying too oooh…guess i was lucky.

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  • Eaglebabe

    I met a guy I loved so much, we became friends and I made de first move but he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship, I was heartbroken and moved on…after 2 years he is now asking me out…de problem is, I still love him very much but am dating someone else…I don’t knw what to do

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Follow your heart, ask you self why you fell in love with him the first time and why you still do after two years their might be some kind of chemistry between you and him

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    Eaglebabe Reply:

    hmmmm, i want to follow my heart but i cant also break this innocent guy’s heart, bcz he has been very kind and caring to me…i love the other guy though

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    Dr. Miyagi Reply:

    Very good just want I expected, exactly the answer I was waiting for just to see where your heart lies, so I will tell you this because you made the first attempt and he wasn’t really ready neither gave you the time to prove yourself why because “he wasn’t ready yet” you both remained friends without strings attached you both got to know each other the flame sparked between the both of you and your very happy with him thank will say stick to what you got sister cause there is where your heart lies

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  • Dr. Miyagi

    When I was single the girls who hit on me I usually wasn’t attracted to them anyhow. If a girl smiles at you from across the bar go over and just talk to her, buy her a drink, be yourself, make a lot of eye contact and don’t use any cheesy pick up lines. What ‘s the worst that could happen

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