Sex and Relationships: The Beauty of a Good Marriage – PART 227 Comments

By SassyChic
Posted on 12 Dec 2010 at 1:22am

So I believe in the whole forever thing. Marriage may be not be all sweetness and light because in truth, most partners experience downtimes in their relationships. Still, I think the vows of marriage are to keep a couple loving each other for better of worse. While a woman should be free to leave an abuser or a cheat as the case may be.

I think there are reasons to rethink leaving a partner so easily when the down times come in a marriage. Below are some of them.

 1 – You’ll be better person in so many ways.

Partners who are smart, honest and share their opinions and outlookwith their spouses will improve them. They will challenge you on so many levels and this will bring out the best in you. There are the sayings that two heads are better than one and about iron sharpening iron, and they are true in a marriage.  Spiritually, intellectually and all of the other -allys considered, the only way is up. Being married grounds you in a different way from just taking care of yourself. This is even more so when the children begin to come. You learn one of the best attributes of life, self sacrifice and commitment.

2- You’ll be much happier and healthier.

When you marry a person you are compatible with, the chances are very high that you’ll be happier than you were when you were single. No man is an island. Most of us have been biologically and socially engineered to want a partner. This desire when attained will in the right conditions continue to yield fruits of happiness. Apart from that is the matter of spending lots of time with someone who cares for you, and who makes you happy. This is a major boost to your selfesteem and will probably spill over to other aspects of your life, making you take more joy out of things you may not had even considered otherwise.  Statistics have shown that this happiness translates to better health for married people and may even contribute to them living longer lives.

3 – You’ll have more and better sex

Yes you can quote me on this one, lol. There are also statistics to back me up. Most single people get little or no sex, especially when they are abstaining or are not in relationships. Even when hooked up, because relationships which do not quickly lead to marriage tend tobreak up after a while, many singletons experience long dry spells with no sex. This is not the case when married. While you may not make love every day of every week, you do get your regular doses and lovemaking being one of those activities that gets better with practice; you will definitely see an improvement and more enjoyment with time as you both learn each other, your likes and your dislikes.

  4 – You’ll be more attractive

Married people tend to take more care with their appearances, not just to please their spouses but because of the boost that comes with being happier and getting regular doses of the chemicals released when someone has lots of sex. Anecdotes abound of men who say they begin to get hit on by women after they get married and the same goes forwomen. You are cleaner, take more care of yourself, begin to use the appropriate hygiene products you may have disregarded in the past and possibly you are also trying to keep fit and in shape at the local gym or in quality time with your spouse.

 5 – You’ll be married to the father of your children

Let’s be honest here and tell ourselves the truth. There may be so many other ways and circumstances in which to have children and bring them up these days but experts still agree that the best way is in households with two parents in a committed relationship. There is a special joy in working together with a spouse to raise your children, the shared highs and lows, the pains and happiness, knowing that these offspring are from both of you and that if one is not there, the other  would do any and everything humanly possible to take care of those children.

  6 – You’ll have better financial benefits and increased earning power for the household.

When you look at it from the big picture, it is cheaper to cook for more than one, ditto for air-tickets, hotel rooms, and apartments. Houses cost the same no matter how many people live in it, you get the general idea. Look at it this way; you are pooling resources together with your spouse and in some cases, getting an extra income into your household.

Thanks for logging on for the second a final part of ‘The Beauty of a Good Marriage’. Please share your thoughts and comments on the post for others to read and benefit from!

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Written & Submitted By: Myne Whitman

Myne Whitman is a pen name. She has lived in Nigeria and the UK and now lives with her husband in Bellevue, Washington. Quiet and romantic Myne volunteers as an ESL tutor for a local charity and also writes full-time.

Her first novel, A Heart to Mend, is on AMAZON and in bookstores. She can be found on Facebook (/Myne.Whitman) and Twitter (@Myne_Whitman)

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  • GoldenGurl

    The first one just really hits the nail on the head and I can really relate. I was thinking my guy was just a nag and I could never get anything right but then being one of introspection and realism I really did know that a man who gives you a bit of a hard time on things that need to be improved is a man that truely loves you. My mom always used to nag me and harras me and then she would shout if i didn’t care about you I wouldn’t say anything. I would just watch you and let you make the mistakes that you would later regret….so whenever my guy is harrassing me I try not to be sensitive about it when I know deep down he is right and im messing up! Thanks Myne always love your posts!

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    marian Reply:

    aaaah okk!! He is like that too. That means He loves me so much. OOOh I see!!!

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    maame Reply:

    lolz good for you hun

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    myne Whitman Reply:

    It is really important to listen and pay attention from what your partner is saying and learn to also reply with love. I hope everything goes well for you.

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    mamizzle Reply:

    BUT sometimes I think the tone sets the music…some guys tend to insult and all that…do I have to keep up with that as a woman and try to see what he is saying or just quit? What if he is the behaving in a way that does not support the relationship and I keep mentioning it but he wouldn’t listen? What do i do then? I hope I’m clear.

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    maame Reply:

    lolz i know right!! am fighting with him right now over some crappy sh*t.. ughhh i hate guys sometimes

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    marian Reply:

    u r right, they insult very well. sometimes u wonder if they hav’nt been to school before.

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    marian Reply:

    Thanks so much. I think it isn’t every insult that shd make me thnk dat he loves me.

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    Lol, Marian that comment about they not being to school is funny.

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  • mamizzle

    i love this one!!!
    im 2nd again arrgghhh

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    maame Reply:

    lolss

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    mamizzle Reply:

    hahaha u r laughin at me eh? dun worry loool

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  • marian

    This has really touched my heart. I have all that u talked abt but the sex aspect is what am missing. lol We don’t have sex regularly. Maybe if we do I will be more beautiful.

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    maame Reply:

    Lol girl sex huh? you go girl. I’m not sexualy active so i guess am ugly.

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    marian Reply:

    naah! u r beautiful but with sex in addition u will be very very beautiful.lol

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    maame Reply:

    ohh hahaha i see ohh my sister then i guess.. i will start trying to be active then i will see the outcome. but i heard too much sex makes you ugly,,

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    Dont worry, remember too much of everything is bad.U r pretty regardless the sex aspect.Sex is for married couples remember?lol..If you r only in a relationship then maame pls. use that proerty for one thing, and thats for pee!

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  • http://www.mynewhitman.com/ myne Whitman

    I’m glad you liked it. I wish everyone a lovely relationship with their partners, and a beautiful forthcoming marriage to those still on the way.

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    maame Reply:

    thanks whitman. i really needed that cause my babe is messing with me right now.

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    marian Reply:

    oooh soooo sorry to kw this but after reading this how is it going with him?

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    maame Reply:

    well yeahh is better now mari.. hope you good. :)

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    Dont worry, its not always smooth, it gets rough at a point in time.Look past that messing around and you will be fine.all da best!!!

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  • gossipmama

    Great article. Without happiness, relationships will never stand the test of time…

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    Agreed!!!

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    marian Reply:

    never will it stand. I agree too

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    marian Reply:

    Maame thats not true. If it is a fact, all married women would not be appealing atall. But u take a good look at sassy n any other married woman, even ur mum n see if what am saying is not true.

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  • yaw atta jnr

    yes is better 2 listen 2 ur partner.yaw att

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