What Will Make You Leave Your relationship?37 Comments

By SassyChic
Posted on 06 Nov 2010 at 11:20am

The rate at which relationships drop dead is increasing as days go by. A close friend of mine who walked out of her long term relationship this week made me ask the question “What will make one leave a relationship”.

As I tried to read around the reasons why some people  (Men and Women) walk out of their relationships, I stumbled on the below write-up. Take a deep breath and give it a read. It is worth it

A relationship is today the most risky business. Even in marriages, it is known that only two out of 10 partners make it. Victims cut across, from rich to poor, young and old, religious and non-religious. The question is: What will make you leave your relationship?

What will make you leave?

Partners leave for any reason you can think of – serious or frivolous. Imagine a wedding in Accra two months ago. The wedding was big, but after the thanksgiving the next day, the man complained about the late lunch. The woman, tired and stressed up, hit back strongly and packed out the same day. The marriage lasted one day!

Today, financial problems, family problems, in-law troubles, sexual mal-adjustment, emotional insecurity, neurotic traits and social factors like work and friends are common causes of separation.

It is also known that a man’s greatest emotional needs are respect, sex, an attractive wife and domestic care (cooking and taking good care of the home). The greater these factors are lacking, the greater the chance a man will leave.

Studies also show that what a man finds most unpardonable and may most likely leave is for him to find his woman unfaithful. A man may move from woman to woman, but let him catch his woman only once, and hell will break loose. Men!

An interesting observation is that most of the time when a man leaves, the issue has nothing to do with the woman but everything with the man. If he fails an exam, is refused a visa, has a failing business or becomes impotent, he loses his ego. A man without his ego is living dead. He does not see himself as a man and may leave a relationship no matter how caring and loving his woman is.

A woman’s greatest emotional needs are affection, companionship, family commitment and financial support. Women love to be in a relationship and develop higher tolerance to stay in it. She will do all it takes to stay until she finds no security in the relationship.

Do you have to leave?

Today most people leave relationships needlessly. No doubt studies show over 90 per cent of partners who leave their marriages regret. They realise that their partners were after all not so bad and that they left based on emotions but not on rational thinking.

Some leave based on myths of meeting a better person. Fact is, second marriages are often harder and more prone to failure because partners carry emotional pains in them. Some see their partners as problems and solutions. If you put solutions outside your control, your relationship worsens and you may leave.

It is known that partners in good relationships are more productive and richer than singles. They express higher levels of happiness and live longer. You therefore, have every good reason to stay in your relationship and work on it.

If you want to leave, you will look at the darker side of your relationship and have many reasons to do so. On the other hand if you want to stay, you will look at the brighter side and count your blessings.

In the Good Book, we read of a man called Paul who made a U-turn about his faith and stayed completely committed to it. He was imprisoned, flogged, severely stoned, shipwrecked, beaten with rods and exposed to death many times.

In the midst of these dangers, he proclaimed emphatically that neither death nor life, height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will separate him from his faith.

Dare to say the same about your relationship. Nothing will happen to your relationship except what you put on your mind. If you make up your mind to stick to your relationship, you will stay and your relationship will work because what happens to your relationship is simply mental pictures you put on your sub-conscious mind.

Never allow anything to come between you and your relationship. With this as a foundation, you will see the amazing benefits of a relationship.

Stay in your relationship and stay blessed.

Source: Mirror

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  • Anass

    Hmm, i was just about leaving my relationship but i realise one thing now after reading this passage, my letting my emotions affect my reasoning and it has blinded the good side of my man. I will try harder now. Thanks.

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    marian Reply:

    pls don’t leave

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    marian Reply:

    hmm i’ve read this again.It means alot.

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    marian Reply:

    someone pls tell our men to show more compassion and provide emotional security for us .For we are women.thanks

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    maame Reply:

    Am with you on that one.

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    marian Reply:

    Thanks my dear for supporting.

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  • tisha

    when he cheatz……….for dat ain’t no doubt. my a$$ will be outta de plc.

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    marian Reply:

    My dear,remember that what will be will be.

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    marian Reply:

    I virtually packed out of the house not b’cos he cheated but cos of misunderstandings.What about that girls?

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    I think you just need some time to take a deep breath.You could either go on vacation or spend some time to yourself.It really helps.I dont think packing out of the house is the best solution.Its just like men get tired of you when you always around them.

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    marian Reply:

    What about the kids? how do I leave them behind?

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  • islander

    if he cheats!

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    marian Reply:

    Well,I agree but don’t u think u love him more than just leaving?

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    True oo, some things are not meant to be shared.

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    marian Reply:

    That’s true too o, my friend. You can’t share everything.

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  • maame

    Hmm i always said if my Boyfriend cheated on me i will leave him but guess what? it happened and i couldnt just leave him.. so seriously i think the only thing that will make my live my relationship is if am nott treated like how am supposed to be treated.

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    marian Reply:

    u did the right thing girl.cos he will go but will always come back to u.That means a lot u know?

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    maame Reply:

    It really does hun.. :)

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  • Adjoa Nbaaso)

    Well such is love.It got it ups and downs.Its just a matter of hoping for the best.

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  • islander

    if i fall out of love! or if he falls out of love

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    marian Reply:

    Certainly, if there is no love, there is no relationship too.

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  • 27 calibre

    is when she refuse to gim me the what i want it ,like sex..

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    Eish, thats tight…lol

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    marian Reply:

    wuuuuuuuuu! another good point there.

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  • Ms_venus

    I totally agree wiv maame, I’ll can only leave my boyfriend if he treats me less than I deserve!!

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    Well I kinda agree with you all but do you wanna say you dont mind if he is cheating bug time and still treating you as a “queen” as you call it.

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    Adjoa Nbaaso) Reply:

    *big

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    marian Reply:

    No way, sis.

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    marian Reply:

    you r right there.

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  • marian

    I think i have to wise up n not just leave.

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  • marian

    eya mo nya abotre mma yen.Men

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    maame Reply:

    How i wish they could hear you! 

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    marian Reply:

    If wishes were horses……………….

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    marian Reply:

    Where r u maame?

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    marian Reply:

    I mean which country r u?

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    mother Reply:

    hmmm ,men eh ,they just troublsome they way they think ..as l always its something else ..just strange …e.g u cant the one that dont cheat …he is loving sincere ,caring …but then u want other qualities like smartness ,ambitions and he doesnt have it …..other mmight have these qualities but not caring and loving …so its very difficult to find the totally package as we ladies would want it …especially when kids come in and u realised he is not that u wnat …but then its too late cos of the kids ..
    one thing is we should try to seee their positive side andseek for Gods help to stay with them cos divorces are not the best …. or having invested soo much in long term and leaving cos of only he cheat on u …just leave foe a while and think thru if its worth it and waits ..yes wauts if he would come back for or or beg for forgivness before u go back …..but if he doesnt he certainly dont respect ur feelings ..and would never …

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    mother Reply:

    i mean u can get the one that dont cheat ….loving ,caring ..but then lazy or not smart …

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